Adults who long for approval from family members will discover the roots of family acceptance, overcome rejection from the past, and learn to pass the blessing on in their own families. This interactive workbook helps men and women understand and apply the five principles of the blessing--a life-changing acceptance that heals and brings inner peace.

For years Gary Smalley has helped millions of couples throughout North America enrich their relationships and deepen their bonds of love and companionship. In this extraordinary book, he shows you how to stay in love through all the stages of life. From first attraction to lifelong commitment, Gary's proven techniques and practical advice show you how to pursue and keep the love you want, and how to energize your relationship with enduring, passion-filled love.

In this book you'll learn how to: Understand and use love's best-kept secret Deal with the number one enemy of loveTurn headaches into more loveIncrease your energy to keep lovingFind the power to keep on loving your spouseUse normal conflicts as doorways to intimacy Read a woman's built-in marriage manual twelve waysDivorce-proof your marriage Develop the five vital signs of a healthy marriageRespond to your partner's number one requestFind the powerful secret to great loveBring out the best in your maddening mate

With humor, empathy, and insight, Gary Smalley inspires you to fall in love with life and enjoy the deep satisfaction of a lifelong love. Down-to-earth examples, touching personal experiences, and inspiring spiritual principles will motivate you to bring about positive changes in your marriage-whether or not your mate is a willing participant. You'll learn how to tap resources at hand to help you follow through with your journey-and make your love last forever.

Mark has eloquently unraveled the mystery behind addictive behavior: when our relationships are not alive and growing, the temptation for various kinds of addictions is unleashed.. ---Dr. Gary Smalley With today s rampant availability of Internet pornography, sexual addiction has become a national epidemic that affects up to 10 percent of Christians. As devastating as any drug habit, it brings heartbreak and despair to those it entangles. But there is help for men and women caught in sexual addiction s downward spiral. This book offers a path that leads beyond compulsive thoughts and behaviors to healing and transformation. Sensitive to the shame of sexual addiction without minimizing its sinfulness, Dr. Mark Laaser traces the roots of the problem, discusses its patterns and impact, and maps out a biblical approach to self-control and sexual integrity. Previously titled Faithful and True, this revision includes an all-new section that deals with sexual addiction in the church. Other important changes reflect cultural trends, incorporate current research, and place a greater emphasis on spiritual growth. This book also addresses the unique needs and issues of female sex addicts. Whether you know someone with a sexual addiction or struggle yourself, Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction points the way to understanding, wholeness, and holiness."

Over 600,000 copies sold! The perfect guide for husbands who want to love their wives and strengthen their marriages in a way like never before. So you want your wife to . . . Understand you? Appreciate you? Be more responsive sexually? Support you during hard times? Admire you? Share your interests? Listen to what you have to say? In this revised and updated edition of his classic bestseller, Gary Smalley explains a woman's deepest needs, shows men how to meet those needs, and gives ten simple steps to strengthen any marriage. He helps men to understand not only how to respond to a woman's feelings, but also how to make her feel important. Using the latest research, humorous and touching illustrations from his own life, as well as case histories and biblical examples, Gary Smalley maps a blueprint to a better marriage that will have a deep and lasting impact on men and their wives. Companion to For Better or for Best. Spanish edition also available.

Discover a simple yet profound plan for a marriage of depth, warmth, and excitement! Guide your marriage for a lifetime by learning how to make your spouse feel truly honored, keep courtship alive, rebuild trust, and become best friends with your family. Love is more than a feeling. It is a choice. And while that sounds less than romantic, nobody gets married and ever plans on getting a divorce-but every marriage is headed for both happy and hard times. According to family counselor and bestselling author Gary Smalley, good marriages are no accident. And deciding to love-in the practical ways outlined here-can result in relationships that are tougher than those tough times. Using stories from couples he has counseled, spiritual lessons, and emotional word pictures, Smalley teaches biblical principles and practical techniques for building, re-building, and nurturing relationships. This classic guide, perfect for gifting, is ideal for newly engaged couples, newlyweds, and veteran married couples alike. You will learn how to: Learn the art of meaningful conversation Energize your mate in 60 seconds Find the surprising key to satisfying sex Discover the surprising secret of a close-knit family Tap into the unfailing power source behind a great marriage In this timeless bestseller, Smalley and Trent explain how to take advantage of the unique strengths of women and men to forge stronger marriages that will withstand the greatest tests. Love is a Decision is also available in Spanish, El amore s una decision.

Este manual de instrucciones para los hombres deja claras las distinciones entre los sexos y da una perspectiva refrescante sobre como construir un matrimonio mas fuerte.Gary Smalley explica las necesidades mas profundas de la mujer, le muestra al hombre como satisfacerlas, y provee diez pasos simples para fortalecer cualquier matrimonio. Ayuda a los hombres a entender como responder a las emociones de la mujer tanto como hacerla sentir importante. Smalley emplea ilustraciones chistosas a la vez que conmovedoras de su propia vida, ademas de estudios de caso y ejemplos biblicos, para disenar un plano para un mejor matrimonio.

Children of every age long for the gift of The Blessing-the unconditional love and approval that comes from a healthy relationship with their parents. This life-changing gift for Christian parents and their children, essential for instilling a deep sense of self-worth and unshakable emotional well-being, contains five essential elements: meaningful touch a spoken message attaching high value picturing a special future an active commitment Offering solid, practical advice and a fresh perspective on making this gift a bigger part of our families, The Blessing powerfully communicates these biblically based elements as necessary to prepare children for positive future relationships, including their relationship with a loving God. New to this updated edition are giving The Blessing to others in your circle of influence, practical application tools and stories of how this is lived out, insight and help for those who didn't receive The Blessing, and how to create a lifestyle of blessing others.

Out of your heart flow your words and actions. Change your heart, and you'll change your life.

According to best-selling author Dr. Gary Smalley, nobody has to live by the destructive subtle lies or believe the distortions of truth this world holds out to us. There are steps, strategies, and beliefs people can bring to their lives to either totally transform them or quietly improve them-and it all starts with hiding God's Word in their hearts.

Hiding God's Word in his heart radically changed the life of Smalley himself, and he is seeing it revolutionize the lives of people around him as well-from lust, materialism, selfishness, anger, stress, overeating, anxiety, and guilt, just to name a few. No matter a person's age, experiences, or previous patterns, this book will guide readers to the whys and hows of orchestrating their beliefs to forever change their lives and relationships.

With her Marine husband serving overseas, will Jenna trust God's plans for their marriage--or find comfort in another's arms?

Jenna Beaumont Mason had her marriage all planned out. But what she didn't plan was her husband, Kevin, unexpectedly reenlisting in the U.S. Marines--without her knowledge. When Kevin is assigned to serve in Iraq, Jenna struggles with loneliness and resentment at his lengthy absence. This is not the life she wanted.

With the support of other military wives and much prayer, Jenna tries to accept this new reality in her marriage. But when a caring, handsome--and very available--man offers Jenna the comfort she longs for, she struggles to stay faithful to far-away Kevin.

Things grow even more complicated for Jenna and her parents when a mysterious young woman named Skylar shows up at their home, the Hacienda Hideaway. When Skylar's past finally catches up with her, she puts the Beaumonts at risk not only of broken hearts, but of something even more dangerous.

As the Beaumonts grow in their love for God and each other, they learn that sometimes the best way to reconcile relationships is by surrendering control.

Never before has a family so desperately needed to gather.

Just months ago they were on the brink of marital disaster, now Max and Claire Beaumont are blissfully planning their re-wedding ceremony. But gathering the support of their children has been tough. Instead, Max and Claire are watching their children suffer hidden heartache. One is missing her soldier husband, another is drinking way too much, and another steadfastly hides her pain away.

Claire has no choice but to fall to her knees in prayer.

She daily reminds herself that "God is good," something her beloved mother-in-law taught her to do. And starting fresh at the Hacienda Hideaway is perfect--there Claire and Max fortify their strength to rebuild the family.

Then, in the midst of this deeply personal journey, two strangers enter their world unexpectedly, changing all they knew and trusted about each other. Whether they embrace or reject these women will impact their family bond forever.

A repeat bestseller for two decades, this child-rearing classic cuts to the heart of the anger and alienation that mar so many modern homes. In this ultimately practical book, Gary Smalley outlines effective steps for parents to open up a child that has shut them out. He describes family-tested ways for parents to set limits and enforce them, and he reveals the simple but powerful secret for achieving a close-knit family. Learn proven parenting methods that can spell the difference between an angry, rebellious, distant child and a happy, cooperative one.

Discover what it means to truly trust God, and how a deep relationship with him can bring life and joy into marriage.Renowned family counselor, seminar speaker, and author Gary Smalley gives insight into five truths that can transform marriage. Sharing openly from his own relationship with his wife, Norma, Gary shows why both husbands and wives need* An independent energy source to recharge their spiritual batteries* Someone each can talk to about anything and at any time* An understanding of their emotions and what they mean* Reassurance that their trials have meaning* A shared mission they can strive for together

"Life is relationships; the rest is just details." We are designed for relationships, yet they often bring us pain. In this paradigm-shifting book, Dr. Gary Smalley unravels the DNA of relationships: We are made for three great relationships--with God, others, and ourselves--and all relationships involve choice. Gary exposes a destructive relationship dance that characterizes nearly every relationship conflict, and he offers five new dance steps that will revolutionize relationships. The DNA of Relationships, the cornerstone book in Gary Smalley's relationship campaign, will help you learn to take personal responsibility, create a safe environment, keep their battery charged, listen with the heart, and adopt a no-losers policy. It will revolutionize your marriage, family, friendships, and work relationships!

Make your marriage the safest place on earth.

Of all the best-selling books and award-winning videos Dr. Gary Smalley has produced for couples, "I Promise" is his most important and most revolutionary work ever. A decade of focused research has brought him to this startling new conclusion: Great marriages are built on a foundation of trust, not behavioral skills.

So not only is a harmonious, long-lasting relationship within every couple's grasp, but emotional security is the cornerstone for the relationship you've always wanted. That means you don't have to be a relationship guru to connect deeply with your spouse after all You simply need to feel secure in your marriage - and to help your spouse do the same. Then the best relationship possible will happen naturally.

Creating security is easier than you think. It takes only five simple promises to each other. Promises you can most certainly make - promises this book will equip you to keep.

Writing in his trademark style, Dr. Smalley delivers a lifetime of information, true experiences, encouragement, and wisdom for anyone who wants their marriage to be not just safe, but the safest place on earth.

Find the balance between tough love and tender love. In The Two Sides of Love, best-selling authors John Trent and Gary Smalley explain how to find a healthy balance between the protective, consistent, "hard side" of love and the tender, understanding, "soft side" of love.

This is the groundbreaking book that introduced the four "animal" personality types (Lion, Otter, Golden Retriever, and Beaver) and it will show you how to best demonstrate both sides of love in all your relationships--with your spouse, children, and friends. Included in this thoroughly updated edition is a free online assessment of your core personality type.

This updated edition is a helpful tool for personal growth, small group studies, and couples' classes.

Over 600,000 copies sold! Crack the code on what motivates your man and how you can build a better marriage together! So you want your husband to . . . Be sensitive to your emotional and romantic needs? Comfort you when you're down? Spend more time with you? Listen to what you have to say? Appreciate you? Do more around the house? Spend time with the kids? Be your most intimate friend? In this revised and updated edition of his classic bestseller, Gary Smalley explains how women can use their natural, God-given qualities to build a better marriage. He helps women understand not only the way men think, but also how to move a man's heart. Using the latest research, stories from his own marriage, and case histories and biblical examples, Gary Smalley offers an insider's perspective into the world of men, including practical help and application so wives can deepen their relationships with their husbands and build a lasting marriage. Companion to If Only He Knew. Spanish edition also available.

Winning your wife back from emotional or physical separation is more than doing the same things with more intensity. It involves developing a whole new strategy to overcome what seem to be overwhelming odds to attain a come-from-behind victory. In "Winning Your Wife Back Before It's Too late," Gary Smalley utilizes the following game plan to significantly increase your chances for a "miracle comeback"

• Understand "penalty flags"
• Open a closed spirit
• Honor your wife and children
• Develop sacrificial love
• Initiate change in yourself
• Be accountable by joining a support group

Through true stories of previously separated couples, you'll see how the principles illustrated in this plan have been fleshed out in the lives of real people and can lead to a successful reconciliation. Although there is no guarantee that you will win your wife back, you can still experience personal triumph and gain significant yardage in becoming the godly man you were intended to be.

Your marriage may be beginning to crumble. Or it may already be in shambles. Its present condition does not determine its future, though. You do.

Imagine building a home on a foundation of sand or mud. Renovating or redecorating your home would be senseless because at any moment the whole house could collapse due to a faulty foundation. Before changing flooring, wall colors, window treatments, and furniture, you would need to seek out an architect to first firm up the foundation.

Likewise, winning your husband back necessitates more than simply rearranging the old stuff in your relationship. You may decide to fight differently than you did in the past, but if the old unresolved anger is allowed to remain, then nothing will genuinely change in our marriage. "Winning Your Husband Back Before It's Too Late" targets the foundational weaknesses in your marriage. By developing an overall plan to win back your husband, you will learn how to:

• Discover what causes distance in marriage
• Understand the man you married
• Become whole
• Examine personality differences
• Build commitment
• Communicate more successfully

"Winning Your Husband Back Before It's Too Late" can help you rebuild a strong marriage in which you and your husband see each other through Christ's eyes and become one in Him.

Here's a message that will bring hope, healing, and restoration to thousands of beleaguered relationships. With his trademark warm and inviting communication style, Smalley blends sound scriptural theory with workable applications for marriages and families.

El autor guia a las esposas a entender los pasos hacia una exitosa reconciliacion. Este libro esta escrito especialmente para la esposa que desea recuperar a su esposo a pesar de la decision de el de separarse.

An unopened gift. A broken vow. A tragic fire. Sometimes there are wounds that even time can't heal.

Max and Claire Beaumont seem to have the perfect marriage. They live in a beautiful home, have four wonderful children and everything else that success and money can buy. Yet beneath this picture-perfect exterior, Claire's life is falling apart. She can no longer hold her peace and keep up appearances.

After all the silent years, she must speak the truth.

As their lives unravel, deep needs and even deeper hurts are revealed. Not only the wounds between husband and wife, but family wounds as well. Will this time of soul-searching and conflict bring them closer together--or tear their marriage apart?

It's a strange irony to leave home in search of a safe harbor. Yet that is often where the journey begins . . . especially when it is time to mend.

A Time to Mend is the first novel in the Safe Harbor series. Drawing on the insights of best-selling marriage expert Gary Smalley, the series explores the joys and struggles of marriage, family, and faith.

Una guia para hallar el balance adecuado entre los aspectos fuertes y tiernos del amor.